Hello Lovers, It’s a new week and I hope you’re off to a great start. Today I’m going to dive right in to things. Are you letting your past baggage impact your present? To me, this question is almost like opening an imaginary can of worms, ewwh. What do I mean by past? Well, everyone has hurts, right? Whether that be from a past relationship; cheating wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend. Sometimes those hurts are from past friendships; The experiences where you thought this person was going to be in your life forever, your “ride or die” then life happens and they’re no longer there, that can hurt. Maybe you have suffered from terrible abuses or health issues/scares. Or it could even be a past job that didn’t work out the way you wanted. Everyone carries hurt. EVERYONE.
I promise, it’s easy to feel like you’re alone in your hurt that nobody else could possibly understand the hurt you have, but in my opinion, feeling this way is only partially true and can ultimately trap you in a “woe-is-me” mentality . What do I mean by that? It’s true every situation is different, everyone’s circumstances are different, because of this, it’s nearly impossible for us all to have the exact same hurts, feelings, and or brokenness but what remains the same for us all (again, my opinion) is that we ALL hurt. We all have past’ and we all also have a CHOICE in how we proceed. Choose to “Grow through what you go through”
People make decisions that hurt people and don’t take the time to realize how that hurt impacts others lives around them. It’s not the most fun part of life but nonetheless it’s a very real part of life. Another part of life is that hurt could be caused by people or a person that doesn’t even seem to care that they hurt you or others. Then we have the self-created hurts created from self-doubt and the comparison game I touched on last week; What did I do to them to deserve this?, Why me?, I was good to them?, what did I do wrong?, Am I not good enough, pretty enough, handsome enough, skinny enough, sexy enough? etc.
My point here is, whether it’s a romantic relationship that made a turn for the worse or a platonic friendship between you and a person with whom you have a ton of history, toxic people in your life deserve to be expeditiously escorted OUT of your life. You may never get the answers to your infinite array of “why” questions, you may never get the apology you feel you deserve…..you know what?, that’s O.K!!
I know it’s not easy but in the words of the GREAT Madea aka. Tyler Perry “ain’t nobody said it was gon’ be easy but it’ll get easier when you learn to love yourself” Watch and listen to these amazing videos and please let this Madea wisdom wash over you.
I bring all of these things to the table because of my own hurt I’ve had, my own past experiences. Because of my own past and hurts I haven’t always been the best person to be in a relationship of any kind with. I was the person hurting people and not realizing it. You have to make the choice to move past the hurt. Take responsibility. Let people go from your life. Don’t let those people win when they didn’t care enough about you to begin with. I’ve made that choice in my life and I’m a better person for it. It didn’t happen over night, it took time, I still have to make the choice over and over again….daily. I choose to LOVE without being tied to my baggage. I also know that it truly doesn’t matter what I, your friends, parents, pastor, tell you, you have to make the choice yourself. Choose to save yourself, your current, and future relationships by loving and healing yourself. I hope that this helps you to make that choice too if not now, someday soon.
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Until next time Lovers!